Read until the end to discover my personal sex stories, maybe!
SEX SEX SEX SEX SEX
Okay, now you’re paying attention. Duh.
Talking about sex is fun. But it’s risky.
Discussing people’s personalities without doing proper psych research can be fraught with difficulties; if not due to the chance of sounding un-educated, then for the fact that there’s always more research out there you haven’t seen yet (plus new research is constantly coming out at an ever-increasing pace).
Deep down, personalities boil down to our genes’ need to reproduce. Hence, why this post is all about…
SEX SEX SEX SEX SEX
Another reason why it’s risky for people to talk about / ask questions / provide suggestions about other people’s sex lives… is because when they do… they reveal personal details that they may not want people to know. I think that this is exactly why the anonymous Reddit community became the perfect platform to make statements – both smart and stupid – about sexuality.
Talking about “it” is pricey.
The price we pay is revealing too much of ourselves. We can only hypothesize about the things we know, and by definition, personal relationships are personal. Therefore, we’re all biased. Perhaps that’s why we love reading stuff about sex, as it lets us check our experience against information available out there. No wonder Cosmo is still in business after decades of talking about the same thing.
Talking about “it” is also an opportunity.
The benefit you get when you proactively, umm, “cite your facts” about building & sustaining personal relationships is the opportunity to be either corrected or supported by someone who has newer research. If the other person’s research is more recent, and it disagrees with your claims – good; now you know! And if their facts agreed with yours – good; you were right.
As a rule of thumb, if you’re a rational community participant (not just Reddit, but any community), you want to have large streaks of being correct + few streaks of being incorrect. That’s how you add value to the community and maintain your reputation.
Today, I want to show you a place where you can keep up to date on newest psych research on… SEX!
(I’ll be damned if this doesn’t become one of this year’s Top 3 most popular posts all year – unless sex doesn’t sell anymore! #AmIRite?)
“Discussion of sexual strategy in a culture increasingly lacking a positive identity for men.”
As soon as I saw this community description, I though… Lol, I can only imagine how heated their arguments must get! So basically, Reddit members who participate in this community (and by the way, I don’t – I just troll) believe that today’s men lack proper leadership and/or good role models. Talk about an explosive recipe for trolling & shaming, right?
You’d probably agree that many people just don’t know how to argue well!
I see it every day! I bet you do, too. Most people can argue. Few people can argue well.
When I hear people argue – I’ll admit, I’ve been guilty of these, too – people often moralize the issue and insult others to gain leverage in the argument. They need to be right at all cost. I used to do it when I was younger, but I’ve become much more aware of it as I got older. As I look back on some of the arguments I’ve been in with people, I just think “that was so petty of me, glad I’m over that now.”
Not knowing how to argue well sucks! Rational people can see right through that shit! So if you’re arguing poorly, you must either take the other party for a moron, or you must be a moron yourself. Either way, don’t do it. You see… I’m a big fan of the way the rules of this community help violators understand the reasons why their logic may be flawed. For example:
… arguments that stem from morality (i.e. this is evil, therefore) are strictly prohibited.
Do not insult or harass members
If you have a point to be made, you can make it with a well reasoned rationale, or not at all. Calling members “beta” or “bitch” brings the level of discourse down to preadolescent schoolyard bickering.
In a community that’s all about psychological archetypes & personal stories, it’s very interesting to read the comment section. I wondered… how can such a community discuss personal matters without labeling personal things as “beta” or a million other belittling (yet legitimate) terms? I would expect an Internet discussion to derail into trash talking, like most YouTube comments section. But after I dug into it, I was pleasantly surprised.
In this post I want to show you some of the most interesting discussions in this community. Check them out. Then, browse around the community and see if you find anything interesting and post your faves in the comment section below (unique gems worth my time only pls).
Remember that the best value that you’ll get from today’s blog post is not inside the short summary underneath the title that I post, but inside the comment sections found inside the links, which are moderated according to the rules:
While men and women are very different, one thing we have in common is that the majority of us are terrible. 90% of women are basic bitches whose lives revolve around Netflix, wine, shopping, and naps. But we often forget that 90% of men are fuckboys who have no vision beyond videogames, televised sports, smoking weed, and trying to keep their dicks slick. We fault women as boring and banal but too often neglect ourselves.
The kneejerk response is that we’re all unplugged individuals. We’re miles ahead of Joe Beta eating cheetohs on the couch. But the unfortunate truth is that TRP consists mainly of Reformed Betas, and chances are most of us spent high school and college locked in our rooms studying or playing video games; which in terms of cultivating individual character and force of personality is pretty fucking terrible. Without real life experience, too often these guys express themselves through pop-culture references and define themselves by the media they consume. They lack an original, self-actualized identity.
Almost every day I see newly unplugged guys wondering how they can become more interesting and make conversation. Most of TRP is pretty straightforward: lift, read, approach. There’s an endless amount of information on how to lift weights, along with a wealth of resources in the sidebar on RP theory and game. But what do you do if you have the chiseled body and iron frame, but nothing inside?
The trick to starting random conversations is to simply let people in to your interior monologue. I NEVER think in terms of “starting conversations,” but if you hung out with me for a day you would say “wow, that guy starts conversations with everyone he sees!” It is because I am not trying to start conversations. Rather, I am simply aware that I am a good person, and a smart and social guy – and therefore I am entitled to enlighten other people with a thought or two from my interior monologue. When I see a person walking a dog that I think is cute, there is no thinking “should I say something to this person?” because I am already telling them that their dog is cute. When I see an attractive woman in the bookstore, there is no questioning to myself whether or not I should talk to her, because by that time I am already telling her not to buy that Dave Eggers book because Dave Eggers is a terrible writer and she will not benefit from her purchase. I think genuine self-knowledge and self-awareness goes a long way towards achieving this state of Omni-Talkativeness. When I looked deep inside myself and searched my motives, I was a little surprised by the fact that inside, I am a genuinely good person who genuinely wants the best for people.
I call Kevin up and say, ”Sup bro, I got an order for you, i’ll send in the Purchase order for $100,000.” Kevin’s ecstatic, holy shit he’s never seen so much money before in his life. He just started this business and is so excited that he landed such a lucrative contract. He spent the last 4 years going through college to get his business degree, he got married to a lovely girl, they had a kid so she decides to be a stay at home mom at least till he’s old enough for school. He’s been slaving away in corporate America for the past 8 years to pay for college and save up enough to finally start his own business. He’s got this shit on lock. He’s got the work ethic to make this deal happen and he’s going to crush it. He takes out a mortgage on his home to front the startup loan from the bank. He heads out and buys all the materials needed to complete the job. It end up costing him $60,000 grand to complete the job, 40k isn’t a bad profile margin. From the moment he buys his material from his vendors, he has 30 days to pay them back. That’s the default pay period when business to business transaction happen, usually called Net 30.
Kevin thinks he might be able to get a bit more money out of the work though. He contacts me and tells me he underestimated the quote and it’s going to be an extra 30k to complete. Kevin assumes I’ll understand as this is his first time and I’ve been mentoring him through his whole upstart. I let him know that’s fine and we renew the purchase order for $130,000. Now he’s going to make 70k profit! He doesn’t waste any time. From day 1 of him picking up materials he is off putting in the time, labor, sweat and tears to get this done. He’s going to make a killing. Kevin and I meet at a trade show last year through mutual interest and I saw the passion in his eyes to get shit done. I knew he had the hustle, he just need a push in the right direction and some incentive to get started. In this case, $1 million in sales a year is what I offered him. Let’s talk about me a little. I’m in my 50’s, been the president of a division of a billion dollar a year corporation for about 10 years now. Our division alone put out $230 million a year in sales. Our parent company that owns us reaches 1.6 billion a year. Kevin’s 1 million dollar account doesn’t even merit a second glance in the accounting office.
Back to Kevin. He finishes up his work. Spent all his material and the job is done. At 25 days since his first material purchase, he still has just under a week to pay back his vendor at the Net 30. Not to worry, vendors know the game, sometimes it takes a bit to get the money before the last tier supplier get’s his check. He learned all this in business school. He calls up the main office and gives my secratary the news. ”Great Mr Redwood is on vacation in the rockies for the week! When he gets back I’ll have him check out the work and you’ll be seeing the check in the mail within a few business days.” Kevin’s ecstatic, his first big deal. He’s about to bank 70k profit in a month. Week goes by and nothing. He calls but doesn’t reach me. The secretary tells him that I’ll be back by tomorrow to inspect the work first hand. Great, he’s had to dig into his savings a bit to pacify the vendor till the check comes in. No worries though, Kevin and I became good friends during this last year and he still has money back in the bank. Two weeks go by and nothing, He can’t reach me as i never gave him my private cell. He calls the main office, secretary tells him that I checked it out, work was awesome and the check is in the mail. Great, he had to spend some more savings on some emergency medical issue with his kid but now he’s about to bank 70k. He’s dreaming about what this job will be like at the end of the year. The vacation he’s going to be able to treat his family too. Hell, imagine what this will be like in 2 or 3 years. Kevin is literally on cloud 9. The past 8 years has brought him to this moment.
3 weeks, nothing. He’s starting to worry. He’s out almost 60 days and his vendor is starting to send notices. He calls but nothing.
4 weeks past Net 30. same run around.
5 weeks out. still no check.
6 weeks, same.
7 weeks, same.
9 weeks. Kevin files for bankruptcy. His vendors take him to court for the money he owes. All his assets, house, everything, seized by the banks. His wife can’t stand him. How could she marry such a loser. How could this have happened? Hell, this is illegal right?
It is absolutely, one hundred percent, positively illegal to do what i just did to Kevin. But good luck trying to take my $230 million dollar a year company to court while you are in the middle of filing for bankruptcy and have no other income source, Kevin.
The game disappears once you realize the truth. YOU, the real man, the man’s man (even if you are still a boy on your way to manhood), are a fucking SCARCE commodity on the sexual market.
Today’s women are utterly deprived because there’s absolutely no good husband material out there. All the women in my age group that I know–or women my LTR knows and tells me about–are either single and frustrated, or unsatisfied in their relationship. There are virtually no authentic alpha males out there. Women today are forced to choose between pussy boys and retards.
In today’s world it takes next to nothing to “be alpha,” because everyone out there is so fucking beta. The only “men,” who appear alpha (outside of communities like this) are idiots who don’t know any better.
The so-called natural alpha is just an inconsiderate prick who lacks any empathy or ability to conceptualize beyond the edge of his dick. The only thoughts that come to his head are “Me horny! Me go fuck girls now,” and then he does it. And then he appears alpha… he appears to be a decisive man. But his problem is that he acts without thinking.
In the end, he frustrates women because they can’t form an emotional connection with him. So they have their BB orbiters for that. But these guys, on the other hand, are totally incapable of making decisions, setting boundaries, and so on because they’re over analyzing. They overly empathize with others, especially women. Their problem is that they think too much and don’t act enough–or decisively enough.
So then comes along a red pill dude in his mid to late twenties who was a nerd in high school and has since been working on himself. This dude is obviously rationally intelligent. He’s also developed emotional intelligence, dominance, self-respect, decisiveness, personal integrity and so on. He has a tight body because he works out. He’s developed a sense of style. He’s very aware about the world and the social game. And if he’s not making a shit ton of money already, odds are very good that he will within a decade or less.
This man is you. Whether he’s you now or you in a couple of years doesn’t really matter. What matters is that he’s the holy grail in terms of SMV. When he walks by female heads turn. When he looks and smiles in her direction her panties get wet. When he talks to her she’s in awe because…
He’s not even gaming her. He’s not using any tricks. He just has natural confidence he gained from thinking about the world AND acting in it.
If he gets into a LTR it’s because HE wanted to. And if the LTR ends it’s because HE wanted that too. Dread game for him isn’t even a game. He doesn’t even have to do anything because his GF/Wife knows that he can get chics at the drop of a hat. And so she works her ass off to keep him happy.
There’s a post floating around today from 4chan, containing a story as old as time: A guy gets dumped by his girl because she found someone better. I guess I can elaborate with a little more detail. A guy and his girl move into a new apartment, the girl starts hanging out with some of the people there, doesn’t come home one night, and the next day dumps her boyfriend. She explains that she met someone else, is really attracted to him, and was with him last night. The guy asks, “Did you fuck him?” and she responds, “No, but I’m going to.” She explains, essentially, that she didn’t want to cheat on him, so she waited to break up with him first.
Honestly, that little factoid doesn’t matter. The part where she spends all night with this other guy talking about how they’re going to fuck, making sure she has sure thing lined up before dumping her boyfriend – that’s cheating, too. Just as much as fucking the guy would be. If you ask me, she might as well have fucked him.
Our Red Pill brethren predictably flood this thread with comments about how annoying women are. How can she be so callously disrespectful, people ask. I actually find it interesting how much more direct and honest women are toward men that they don’t respect. Once she doesn’t need you any more, she doesn’t need to lie to you any more. I’d give it decent odds that this girl was telling her guy the truth, and she hadn’t fucked the other man yet. She’s breaking up with him anyway, she clearly doesn’t respect him, and she gains very little by lying to him. It’s not like she seriously expects this guy to remain her friend or admire her for not actually cheating. That’s stuff she’s telling him for his benefit to let him down easy. She doesn’t benefit from that.
But anyway, Red Pill predictably complains. Women have no honor, no respect, yada yada. But there’s something our fathers told us, or should have, that really applies here. Something society tells us daily, actually: Respect is earned.
Think about what we’re asking of this girl, or of women in general, if we expect loyalty. We’re asking that if a woman meets another man who’s better than you – be it better looking, higher status, more wealth/security, better social acumen, more interesting skills and hobbies and shit to talk about, whatever – that she pass on this better opportunity solely because you came along first. Essentially, we’re asking women to only commit to a relationship with you if she expects to be with you forever. She can never cheat, never dump you for a better offer. Just stick around forever, or until you dump her. Because apparently, it’s a race and you came along first, so anyone who comes along later must be ignored.
That’s not a fair thing to ask of women. It’s not her responsibility to stay with you on principle alone. It’s your responsibility to be the kind of man who doesn’t get dumped or cheated on. It’s your responsibility to earn her respect, every minute of every day. If she passes on a better offer just on principle, she’ll spend the rest of your soon-to-be-very-short-lived relationship resenting you, finding fault in everything about you, suddenly “realizing” how unhappy she is.
There are tons of posts in this community that are super entertaining to read & follow up on. Tons of discussions on personality traits, life & death, drugs & alcohol and all that good stuff. Check it out: TheRedPill
What ever happened to boy & girl building a relationship just because it “felt right?” Those days are gone, it seems. Now, it’s all about personality matches and a bunch of other over-analyzing bullshit. Interesting times we live in.
Forget about Kamasutra. It’s all about Freud now.
Forget Cosmo. You can get better insight online now.
I love scrolling subreddits that deal with controversial topics more than I like to participate in them. As far as my personal sex stories… you’re gonna have to find those out in future posts 😉 I must not be Alpha enough to broadcast those in public yet, but hey, at least you know I’m gonna keep it real when I do 😀
Mom, Dad, Grandparents… just a heads-up… this might be a good time for you to tune out of vas.today… Just saying… LOL